selfish

I'm basically very selfish, in the sense that I don't see people outside of how I relate to them. I didn't discover this until I was in my 40's or 50;s when I was in therapy or actually earlier. Once with Fred it happened that all of a sudden I realized that he had his own desires apart from me. I guess basically I used people. Despite all my years in therapy and life experiences I'm still so insecure and confused about how to get along with people.